"It's Just Sex...!"

Wow, if I had a dollar for every time someone said that to me, I would be very wealthy woman. The number of times I've heard that is equivalent to the number of times Miley Cyrus has been caught sticking her tongue out like a dying dog- almost infinity. Hello readers, fellow bloggers and those who happened to stumble across my page while keying in "sex" on Google! Today's post deals with something that has transpired from being a taboo issue worldwide to a normality. Sex. Sex was regarded as a sacred act that was to be committed between man and wife ONLY and now it's something that almost 70% of the world had done when they were in high school. High school? Jeez! Back in high school the only thing that got me worried was whether Mr Francis (our sadistic, semi-Nazi Maths teacher) would be in a good mood that day. Or whether I could save just enough money to buy that tank top from MissWhatever at the mall. Sex never crossed my mind at all (doesn't make me a dyke at all, ok?).  Alarmingly, the demography for the most sexually active people has dropped to teenagers being the most sexually active people on the planet.

Instead of that, girls and guys are more worried about losing their virginity before they graduate from high school. Anyone who is still a virgin would be the school's social pariah. Forever. I shit you not, I've actually asked one of my sister's friends about their goals in life after high school and she answered, quote, "I wanna get a job and be really successful but first, I want to move further with [Her Crush's Name]". I narrowed my eyes at her and she shyly looked away which was a dead giveaway that that 'further move' refers to sex. Wow. It amazes me how the value of one's virginity has decreased through the years. Back in my days, we wanted to cherish our virginity until we were married... to the right guy. My dream had always been to let my future husband be the FIRST and ONLY ONE to deflower me. 

Honestly, I don't blame her for answering my question that way. She probably watches The Disney Channel featuring the most messed up teen/tween stars in the whole wide world, thinks Miley Cyrus is da bomb, thinks Selena Gomez's 'Come and Get It' is the best song ever and worships One Direction. The media plays a huge role in normalizing sex, I mean have you seen some of the shows they watch?! For example, 90210 which has to have at least one rough sex scene in every episode. Or The Vampire Diaries (I love this show so much by the way!) which has sex in almost every episode and the characters are teens too. Let's not forget the music they listen to which encourages sex, drugs and alcohol (Yeah, I'm talking about you Ke$ha and you too Rihanna). So in all entirety, sex is everywhere and can't be avoided that easily, but remember that it is a personal choice not a collective one.

No matter how uncool and primitive I sound, my virginity is something that is very sacred to me and something I can never give up so easily without feeling like 80% of my body's missing.  I honestly cannot speak from a male's perspective but guys, when a woman/girl lets you inside her sacred temple, you should damn well appreciate it because it was the hardest decision that she had ever made in her life (even harder than choosing the cutest member of Backstreet Boyz/One Direction/The Wanted to eternally fall in love with). For a woman, giving up her virginity is very important because she will always remember her first time. Always.

Let me clear the air of hostility here by saying that if a girl easily gives up her v-card it doesn't mean she is a slut (unless she gets paid for it, then yes she is).  Other than that, she is a human being with needs, just like you. Now, guys and girls, I'd like to say that you always have a choice when it comes to having sex and its always your call not your partners'. You can always say no, or never. You're the deckmaster here. Now back to this sentence, "It's Just Sex...!" Well ladies and gentleman, its not just sex, okay, its a heavy part of you and its something you can't take back- ever. It sticks with you for the rest of your life. I mean guys, wouldn't you want her to be your first and only? and girls, wouldn't you want him to be your first and only too? The feeling of knowing that you are each others' one and only is just amazing.Now, if you want to have sex, go ahead and have sex but know that it means something. To all the girls that have been pressured into sex, always say no, because if he loved you, then he wouldn't pressure you into having sex with him. And, if you save yourself for marriage you're not a loser or a nerd or a geek or whatever, you're just someone who values their virginity and prioritizes brilliantly. If you keep pleasing society, you will end up destroying yourself because society will always change and soon you won't be able to keep up with their demands.

Since I have the knack for pissing people off with my posts, I'd like to say that this is all from my perspective and like every single one of you, I'm allowed to have an opinion. I'm allowed to voice out my concerns, views and stories. If you don't like it, then go read some blog about.. gardening or something because I will present the cold, hard fact no matter how insulting it is.  What are your views on sex? Does practice make perfect in this aspect or should it still be a sacred matter shared between two people only? Email or comment your views. 

xx

The Stalker Series: Summer Glau

Hello readers and bloggers alike and welcome to another installment of The Stalker Series! This week, we have the talented, gorgeous and ever so youthful, Summer Glau! For those of you who're wondering who she is, get the hell out of that silly cave, you neanderthals and snap back to reality because Summer is the SHIT! Most of you might recognize this multiracial beauty in Transformers the TV series (although I still think she would make a much better replacement for that dowdy looking Rosie Whiteley in the movie) and at the end of the Sleepover movie. Her most recent project involves playing this cutthroat corporate bigshot on the CW series, "Arrow" so the lot of you would recognize her from there. 

Big eyes, slim figure and badass moves, Summer Glau is just hot! So hot that words cannot describe this woman crush that I have on her. I know that most people are confused by her ethnicity because she has one of those faces that just makes up assume she is of a certain races but really isn't even close to that race. Admit it, you all thought she was Asian right? Or Filipino? Well ladies and gentlemen, Summer Lynn Glau is ..... American! Surprised? So was I. i was expecting her to be at least part Hawaiian with her Polynesian looks but nope, none of that, she is American so deal with it. [In other news, Miley Cyrus has bleached her eyebrows]. Summer Glau is just beautiful, like summer... that has been glau'd :D So as usual, for all your stalking pleasure here are the links to her social pages so you can perve on all her selfies and etc. :

Her Twitter Account

Her Instagram

Some Website

Summer Glau Daily (For Those hardcore Stalkers)

So.. Have fun Stalking!  xx

9 People You Should Un-Friend From Facebook

Hello readers! As the title suggests, I am about to put you all out of the misery of having to decide which friend to let go of on Facebook. Thanks to Mark Zuckerberg, Facebook has become a breeding ground for perverts, fake profiles and cyber-bullying. And also thanks to Mark Zuckerberg, it is the easiest, most efficient and fastest way to connect to friends and family. And face it, its definitely much better than Myspace (which by the way, has been transformed into this huge music/song promotion website) or Friendster (which has now been converted into a gaming site so for those of you who have rare 'back-in-the-days' photos there, forget it: they're all gone). The inspiration for this post came from having a massive clean-out of my Facebook friends list, so for those of you who used to be on my list- no hard feelings alright. It's nothing personal, just that you fit into one or more of the categories that I will describe soon. What I noticed when I did my cleanup was that I had been keeping these people for so long and after getting rid of them, I felt as if I'd just done a colon cleanse. I felt very refreshed and happy that I didn't have such a cluttered feed anymore. 

Now let's get to the 9 people that deserve to be un-friended or de-friended by you. The first person that should get the boot from your mouse is:

1. The Leech 

No... Not that leech! I mean the human leech! In this context, the definition of a leech is someone who has the tendency to like every single post (even the ones that don't make sense or those inside-joke statuses), photo, video, link or page that you liked. Basically, this person is the reason you keep getting notification pings on your cellphone (assuming you have Facebook on your mobile phone). This type of friend also enjoys commenting on every single post that you have and trust me that can get very annoying. So Unless you would like to end up in a Mental clinic because you keep hearing Facebook notifications everywhere.. I suggest you commence Operation Facebook Cleanup.

2. The Creep

 

Sure, Facebook is the ultimate breeding ground for potential pedophiles, perverts and the occasional Rosie O'Donnell enthusiast but its also a pit stop for ... The Creep. The Creep can take on any form and age. The Creep is that one human being on your Facebook friend's list who has updated their status four times in one year. The Creep never changes his profile photo (in fact, his photo is the same one he has been using ever since he created his account), never likes or comments on anybody's post, never comes online, and doesn't have more than 5 photos of 'himself' i.e. photos of him taken at an angle whereby their face cannot be seen clearly. Since facebook is all about keeping up with people... what's the point of having such a person on your friend-list when there's nothing to keep up with?     

3. Drama McSasspants a.k.a. The Firecracker

Every once in a while you will spot a few fights and spats going on in Facebook, indeed that is normal. But then there is always that one person on your list who is the initiator of those fights and never gets along with anyone? That same person is also the one who writes the rudest comments on other people's posts and causes trouble whenever she deems necessary. So unless you want to someday be dragged into the crossfire, it's best to avoid the situation by un-friending them.

4. The Attention Whore

Note that even though I used the word "whore" this label applies to both the male and female gender

. This type of friend really sticks out like a sore thumb on your Facebook friend's list. This is because they are the ones that posts a photo of themselves captioned 'OMG, I'm so UGLY! Why?!' (girls) or "I'm packin!" (guys) in the hopes of getting positive comments complimenting them instead of agreeing with them (I wonder what would happen if they actually received a comment that agreed with the caption? I guess that would be when Captain Ouch and General Facepalm will pay them a visit). The Attention Whore also tends to post too many meaningless status updates, check into every single place she visits, links her Twitter and YouTube accounts to her Facebook so that whatever she posts on those website will automatically be updated onto her page and your feed too. This needs immediate extermination.

5. Itchy Fingers

This friend is one who is very common in almost everyone's Facebook friend's list. the reason why 'Itchy Fingers' is such an appropriate label is because this friend's finger is so itchy when it comes in contact with a keyboard, especially  when logged onto Facebook that they just. Cannot. Resist. Adding you into groups without your consent, tagging you onto their statuses or any of their posts, sharing posts onto your wall and adding you as an administrator in certain groups. All this is usually done without your approval. Itchy Fingers also loves sending you gaming requests and tagging you onto their photos. The most annoying thing about them is that they never seem to get the hint. It even comes to the point whereby you've changed your Facebook tag settings to "Need Permission to Tag". Why would you do all that when a "Remove from friends" button exists?

6. That One Timer

Anyone you know can be a One Timer. A One Timer is basically that one guy/girl you met at a store and struck up some conversation with but never met again, or that person that sat behind you in History class in 1996 and whom you've never met since then or even that stranger that smiled at you at a social event and let's not forget your very distant relative whom you've heard of but have never met. The obvious pattern that exists with this type of Facebook friend is that you have never, ever seen them again! And what's worse is that, the chances of you ever seeing them again is slimmer than Miley Cyrus. Besides not having anything else in common with the One timer other than the fact that you clapped eyes on each other and exchanged a few words, there is really no point in having them on your list of friends. 

7. Religion 2.0

Have you ever logged onto your Facebook homepage and all of a sudden there's Jesus this and Jesus that or anything to do with religion blowing up your feed? Well, the person who is definitely responsible for that intrusion is known as Religion 2.0. This is that friend(s) on Facebook that constantly posts religious messages, videos, links and status updates. They also tend to repost or share religious photos and sometimes tag people onto those messages(most of the time they tag people who are severely astray and destined to go to hell). I'm not saying that posting anything religious is a bad thing, in fact, it is encouraged, but -like everything else in this world- there is a limit to what an individual can tolerate. Don't be an online Jehovah's Witness (Really. Don't. Nobody really likes them anyway.) So unless you really enjoy seeing way too many religious messages on your wall, then thoust hath bett'r be gonest.

8. That One Foreigner 

Hey, remember that time you went to [INSERT FOREIGN COUNTRY HERE] and met that really helpful boy/girl who toured you around the city and had very terrible English that only you could decipher? and then later spent your time with them? Yeap, most of us do. That One Foreigner usually posts status updates in their native language so besides not being able to understand anything they post, or only being able to comment on their photos (which in itself is very awkward because you're the only one commenting in English... so yeah...), there's really no point in having them there. Besides, it's not like you're gonna go back to that country and find them again. Exactly.

9. A Complete Stranger

Before going on, let me clarify one thing for you. A Stranger is defined as:

A person whom one does not know or with whom one is not familiar, [Definition from Google.com]
Hey, Didn't ya'll mamma's tell you not to add strangers? Now would be the time to heed that warning as no good ever comes out of it. The worst thing about having someone you have never seen before is that they almost always turn out to be complete perverts or are too good to be true. Avoid adding these people because some of them actually turn out to be hackers who only need your online details to drain your bank account dry. Suffice to say, only 0.01% of strangers we add on Facebook actually turn out to be pleasant and not perverted. Nevertheless: Do not add strangers. Period.

Hopefully this will help you decide the friends on your Facebook list that need to be exterminated. Hopefully you enjoy this post and if you think there are many more categories that I have missed out, don't hesitate to either leave a comment below or send it to my email in the 'Contact Me' box at the end of the entire page. Until then, Goodbye!

The Stalker Series: Ian Somerhalder

Hello folks! Today has been a marvelous day and I hope that you have all been well these past few days! As promised, Chapter two of The Stalker Series will be continued in today's post and of course Ian Somerhalder! Oh, the things I would do to mutilate this man if I were ever alone with him cannot be written in blog form. He is the finest of the fine and he is the smoothest of the smooth. He is hot, sexy, witty AND *gasp* he is a HUMANITARIAN!!! He has his own humanitarian and earth saving foundation named The Ian Somerhalder Foundation or ISF (you can check out more on them by hovering over the name and clicking on the link that will take you directly to the website itself) and this foundation is based in more than 50 countries and boasts a membership of hundreds. If any of you are interested, in the website itself there will be information on it. So more on the sexy beast himself, he looks like he was assembled on a golden tabletop and engineered with the good bits of every human being and perfected to the T. I mean, if he came up to me right now all ragged and shit and asked me to marry him... my answer would definitely be yes! So for those illiterate fools who do NOT know how he looks like (I cannot begin to fathom how...) and for the viewing pleasure of those who DO know him- here is the amazing IAN SOMERHALDER!!! 

Super Hot

My first encounter with this fine being was when he was a temporary addition to 6 episodes of Smallville that was eons ago! Our eyes met when he was mournfully awaiting his death on the streets of New York while being pitifully covered with scabs and looking very baux-eyed. I couldn't help but sink into his beautifully colored eyes and relish in the cries of help that escaped his beautifully carved lips. Then our next encounter was when a new series called Lost was introduced. Our love affair continued until the producer decided to do the unthinkable and killed him off. That was when he was gone, gone, gone... Then, God felt sorry for me and decided to reunite us in the new series the Vampire Diaries. It was a blessing in disguise for me (and a million other girls) as we finally had someone worth looking at in any series (with the addition of other co-stars too). 

What's there not to like about Ian? he's like the perfect guy wrapped in one! Sadly, rumor has it that he is seeing his Vampire Diaries co-star Nina Dob-bitch (hate her!) and like all Hollywood romances the life span of this one is bound to be shorter than Miley Cyrus's new haircut. Btu since we all love Ian, we wish him all the best in life and love and we hope to see him acting for a long time to come :) So next week on my stalker list is hot, sizzling and really, really... discreet? and starts with a H..... N........ .

Stay Tuned.

xx